endpoint: refactor, fix stale holds on initial replication, holds release subcmds

- endpoint abstractions now share an interface `Abstraction`
- pkg endpoint now has a query facitilty (`ListAbstractions`) which is
  used to find on-disk
    - step holds and bookmarks
    - replication cursors (v1, v2)
    - last-received-holds
- the `zrepl holds list` command consumes endpoint.ListAbstractions
- the new `zrepl holds release-{all,stale}` commands can be used
  to remove abstractions of package endpoint

Co-authored-by: InsanePrawn <insane.prawny@gmail.com>

supersedes #282
fixes #280
fixes #278

platformtest/tests/resumableRecvAndTokenHandling.go

@@ -25,7 +25,7 @@ func ResumableRecvAndTokenHandling(ctx *platformtest.Context) {
 
 	src := makeDummyDataSnapshots(ctx, sendFS)
 
-	s := makeResumeSituation(ctx, src, recvFS, zfs.ZFSSendArgs{
+	s := makeResumeSituation(ctx, src, recvFS, zfs.ZFSSendArgsUnvalidated{
 		FS:          sendFS,
 		To:          src.snapA,
 		Encrypted:   &zfs.NilBool{B: false},