Update to protobuf v1.25 and grpc 1.35; bump CI to go1.12

From:
github.com/golang/protobuf v1.3.2
google.golang.org/grpc v1.17.0

To:
github.com/golang/protobuf v1.4.3
google.golang.org/grpc v1.35.0
google.golang.org/protobuf v1.25.0

About the two protobuf packages:
https://developers.google.com/protocol-buffers/docs/reference/go/faq
> Version v1.4.0 and higher of github.com/golang/protobuf wrap the new
implementation and permit programs to adopt the new API incrementally. For
example, the well-known types defined in github.com/golang/protobuf/ptypes are
simply aliases of those defined in the newer module. Thus,
google.golang.org/protobuf/types/known/emptypb and
github.com/golang/protobuf/ptypes/empty may be used interchangeably.

Notable Code Changes in zrepl:
- generate protobufs now contain a mutex so we can't copy them by value
  anymore
- grpc.WithDialer is deprecated => use grpc.WithContextDialer instead

Go1.12 is now actually required by some of the dependencies.

replication/logic/replication_logic_policy.go

@@ -9,7 +9,7 @@ import (
 
 type PlannerPolicy struct {
 	EncryptedSend     tri // all sends must be encrypted (send -w, and encryption!=off)
-	ReplicationConfig pdu.ReplicationConfig
+	ReplicationConfig *pdu.ReplicationConfig
 }
 
 func ReplicationConfigFromConfig(in *config.Replication) (*pdu.ReplicationConfig, error) {